Parenting == Adapting

Over the past three years, I have tried my best to find a way, to do this right, to do that right, but sometimes it just never goes right.

But now, I have come to an understanding that I just have to adapt.

Adapt to that moment, to that time, to that day, to that little being in front of me. That being—-Nalah ! What am I adapting to—-parenting!

Parenting to me, is about forever adapting!

When I took this mindset on....I realized although, i can have the schedule in place and i can create the perfect routine....but the atmosphere says different, guess what that schedule and routine goes out the window!!

Instead of fighting the force.

I stop and meditate and welcome the force (as long as it’s positive). Because that force may be my little one telling me “no mommy, I don’t want to “ but my “will” keeps insisting that she does....and if tantrums and fallouts start and continue to come, then guess what???

My will is not important right now. Because if her will is not being met guess what my will really isn’t either.

I don’t know why I thought that somethings would just come Easy! Not parenting!!!

Man, as much I as I can say I have been hit with one obstacle after another, since my parenting journey began.

I choose not to continue clinging on to thought processes of “everything being a obstacle.”

I look at the fact that I was chosen to be a mother to Nalah Monroe Cobb, and for that I will adapt.

I will still have my moments of needing a moment, needing a breather, and even reminiscing on life before, but even in those moments I will adapt.

I will have my moment, if the sitter isn’t available, I just adapt. If that means Nalah comes too, then that’s what it will be. Because at least I’m out and she doesn’t have to feel that vibe of me constantly wanting a moment. I just adapt.

Adapt in a way of, I wanna work out before she goes down for bed sometimes. Ok, let her workout with me! Adapt.

Fix dinner for two before she goes down, ok let her help! Adapt.

Get my nails and feet done, ok do it on the days she is in school- that work mtg may have to wait! Adapt!

Adapt

Adapt

Adapt

So, instead of always thinking about the what if’s and back then. I am changing it. I am adapting!